Awkward Talks

By the time you are an adult, it seems everyone has at least one awkward topic in their life. You know the ones, right? The facts that – when brought up – can end a conversation in a second, sometimes even clear the room. The stuff about you, your past, your family, whatever, that makes…

It Takes a Village

I love the phrase “It takes a village to raise a child.” If you really believe that, it takes a lot of pressure off of you as a parent, doesn’t it? Realizing that, even if you are a single parent, you aren’t doing it alone. You can’t do it alone. I don’t think it’s possible….

Speaking Pregnant

There’s always the same progression of questions. Early on, you aren’t showing much yet, and people aren’t really sure that you’re pregnant. They aren’t going to ask. How embarrassing if they are wrong. But if you happen to let them know somehow that you are, in fact, carrying life inside you, then the response generally…

Life-Changing Pain

Pain is a funny thing. Well… not in the moment, but in concept. About two years ago, I had strep throat. It was probably the most painful thing I had ever experienced in my life up to that point. It was like taking every sore throat I’d ever had and adding them all together, then…

Spilt Milk

There’s no point in crying over spilt milk, but there is a point in crying. You constantly hear women talk about hormonal breakdowns occurring during and after pregnancy. Things like, “I cried because Braum’s was closed, and I wanted a black forest sundae.” TV and movies portray the same idea constantly, banking on the amusing…

The Nine-Month Journey: Moving Forward

This is the beginning of December, and I’ve definitely reached the point of unhappiness with my body. I’m annoyed now by the leftover fat, the stomach rolls, the weak muscles, the saggy boobs, all of it. Which sets me in this sort of constant irritation with myself because I can’t or don’t do enough to…

The Nine-Month Journey: Physical Recovery

Everyone kept asking how I was feeling, how I was doing. I mean, that’s natural. Especially for the midwives and all that… they kind of need to know. But considering how uncomfortable the last two weeks of pregnancy were and how horrific the actual birth was, I felt like I was floating on air! I…

The Nine-Month Journey: Emotional Recovery

These are several segments I wrote separately throughout the first few days and weeks following my daughter’s birth – somewhat raw reactions. Here, I just did a little rearranging and cutting to make them flow better.   When I attended a birth moms’ support group in my last trimester, I received a lot of advice…

The Nine-Month Journey: Adoption

I recently saw a video where two moms were dropping “truth bombs” about pregnancy and birth. One thing they mentioned was the need for padding immediately after… or maybe a better word would be sponges. They implied that women are usually told to bring a pantiliner, as there “may be some blood”, and then proceeded…

The Nine-Month Journey: Birth

Labor and delivery. It was pretty bad. I had built up all these ideas of what it should feel like and how I would handle it and how “painless birth” could be a thing. I was prepared to silently suffer, to condition my mind to think of it as pressure instead of pain, to utilize…

The Nine-Month Journey: Labor

You know how everyone says that when real contractions hit, you will know you’re in labor without the shadow of a doubt? Well, I’m here to tell you that, like most absolutes given about pregnancy, that’s not true for everyone. It was probably around four in the morning or so on the day my ultrasound…

A Thank You Letter

I always try to look back over the past year sometime in the first week of January. This one was a doozy. Usually, a lot of stuff happens in just one year for me because I’m constantly on the move and love trying new things. In 2017, I felt a bit slower. Most of the…